Happy Mardi Gras!
In a few places around the world, today and tomorrow mark the culmination of Carnival Season – a season that began on January 6 – Epiphany or 3 Kings Day – which in the Christian calendar marks the day the three wise men arrived to the recently newborn Jesus.
I mention this because when I talk about Mardi Gras and king cakes (like the one we made pictured above – isn’t it gorgeous?!?!) with people, they are largely ignorant of this connection to our historical calendar. This connection is why we call the cake a King Cake and why there is a baby (Jesus) hidden in it.
This season is a season of celebration – and in New Orleans and Brazil and a few other places, it’s done up big.
The following day, Ash Wednesday, we move into the season of Lent, which in the Christian calendar marks the beginning of the journey of Jesus to the cross.
I tell this as well, because it points importantly to the cyclical nature of life – to a time of joy and fullness and celebration, debauchery even, followed by a time of drawing in, quieting down, and abstaining. Of letting the reins loose followed by discipline.
It is the natural order of things, and points to exactly what I teach…
We don’t have to always be serious, or “good”, or productive, or disciplined – for therein lies stagnation.
Nor is it wise to be constantly consuming, living large, playing full out – then you blow out and deplete your energy.
Healthful, nourishing, sustainable living lies in the pulsation, in the balance – in the capacity to move from one to the other for a season, with awareness and intention, as is appropriate for your constitution and life circumstance.
I did not observe Lent growing up, but lately I find that it really appeals to me. A voluntary giving up something as a discipline for a time. Why? Why would you go without coffee, or alcohol, or sugar, or meat, or social media, busy-ness, self-criticism, Netflix, or…you name it?
Not because those things are bad in and of themselves, certainly…
But to explore our relationship to them – to see what arises, physically, but more importantly, mentally, when we go without. To see…are we dependent on them…and is that dependency something we WANT to continue?? It could be “yes”, but you’ll never know unless you are willing to experiment.
We live in a culture of addiction – so many ways to get a hit of much – needed dopamine in our over-stimulated but undernourished society.
We tend to constantly reach for something outside of ourselves to feel better.
Yet, those things, while they work momentarily, are depleting over the long-term.
You can always go back.
But aren’t you worth it, my friend, to see what your life might be like with one less dependency, with that much more agency?
Really, savor your pleasures over the next few days…
and then consider – is it the right time for you to lessen your dependency on over-stimulation during the next 6 weeks?
If yes, I’d love to hear what that is for you. If you whisper it to me, I’ll send you my good wishes and check-in with a little accountability. We can even make a doable plan together. Book a free call with me here so I can support your well-being.
May your days be truly delicious and satisfying!
Hi! I’m Laura Jarrait and I work with women who adore good food but feel like it’s running or ruining their lives. They don’t want to diet or quit socializing around food but are tired of feeling less than their best and guilty, obsessive, or confused about what they eat. I help them keep the pleasure and drop the stressful thinking and extra weight, so they feel confident, light and free — all without ending their love affair with food!
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